A good friend of mine was upset recently, because things weren't working out in her life like she wanted. She couldn't get what she wanted. Instead, she kept getting what she didn't want. She said the world was all messed up and dragging her down.
Here's what I told her:
I truly believe that everything is unfolding as it should. It took me a long, long time to get to this point, though. And saying something like that to someone who doesn't understand it, is like punching them in the stomach.
It reminds me of a verse in the Tao Te Ching talking about how people react when hearing about the Tao. It says some are moved instantly, others study it with great reward, some respect it, and then it says this---"Some, upon hearing the Tao, laugh. If they did not laugh, it would not be the Tao."
Everything, even what we don't like or don't understand, is in perfect order. It has to be for anything to be.
I believe we are moved through the world by who we are. The things and experiences that come to us, do it because that's what's drawn to who we are. If they didn't happen, we wouldn't be who we are.
No accidents.