Thanks for the help, but I need more help and the others are scratching their heads too.
Sooooo, I get what I am. 
What am I? 
I think I am loving, fun, sensitive, sensual, smart, spiritual devoted friend, relative, and  woman.
I am seeking the same kind of man.
Am I to judge who I am or do I ask others or do I rely on what I get?
And if I don't like what I get, can I change the person I am?